An olive green bead suspended on wire and leather hangs about my wrist, gently knocking against my skin with any movement of my left arm. This bead serves as my reminder to believe in my own abilities.
Often times, being able to do your best relies on believing in your own abilities. For me and many others, this seems like a daunting task. My anxiety is like a tank rolling in against an ant, and the ant is my belief in myself. I might get lucky, and my hopes and self-confidence might just be missed by the links pounding towards it. But more often than not, my faith in myself is squished beneath the 50-ton weight of my anxiety.
Thankfully, I have many ways in my work and personal life to look back and see my improvement, my abilities, and my potential. At work, I was able to check my progress towards my sales goals and see regulars who actually sought me out because they like working with me so much. In my personal life, I have personal assessments, to-do lists, and routines on my phone along with my fiancé, roommates, and friends who help me keep on top of things as well as remind me of what I’ve been doing.
Sometimes doing your best is literally just getting out of bed and showering that day. Other times it’s getting everything on your to-do list done. It varies from day to day, and it’s important that you (and I) remember that.
I’ve discovered that I feel most like myself and as though I can actually accomplish things whenever I have a routine, and as a part of that, I create a list of the things that I need to do, highlighting my top three priorities. What I use to help me have at least some semblance of a routine is an app called Fabulous. It starts off small and helps you build your routine one step at a time. After you finish a journey, you can easily delete the tasks in your routine that don’t work well for you. It’s absolutely fantastic for me, as it helped me find a routine that helps improve my energy levels and productivity, which in turn helps me to believe in myself and do my best.
The first journey I did was called An Unexpected Journey, and I believe it is the one the app recommends starting off with. Then it led to me doing the Start an Exercise Habit, A Fabulous Night, and Staying on the Road journeys. An Unexpected Journey helped me feel more productive. The others have helped me find my preferred exercise habits, get a better night’s sleep, and stay focused on accomplishing the tasks that I need to finish each day.
These journeys are what have helped me the most recently. For you it might look completely different. It might be the more commercial and popular forms of self-care, like how I take at least one bath a week to help me (and my horribly tense back and shoulders) relax. It might be forcing yourself to go out with friends once a week so that you don’t spend all your free time cooped up in your house.
But what I want to make clear is that doing your best can vary and that it can depend a lot on the amount that you believe in yourself and your abilities as well as your determination.
Whatever you do, don’t give up.
What are some ways you help yourself gain confidence?
What are some tools you use to help do things to the best of your abilities?
Let me know down in the comments below.